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WHY SELF-FORGIVENESS IS THE HARDEST TEST OF ALL

By: Sharee Murphy

 

Forgiving yourself is the final doorway in the maze.
The one you hesitate at.
The one that feels undeserved.
The one that forces you to confront your own humanity.

 

It’s easier to forgive others because we don’t carry their choices inside our identity.
But when it comes to ourselves, forgiveness feels like letting ourselves off the hook.

But here’s the truth:

Self-forgiveness isn’t escape — it’s evolution.

It’s the only thing that lets you:

• stop replaying old mistakes,
• stop defining yourself by your lowest moments,
• stop punishing yourself for being human,
• stop blocking your own emotional access to joy, clarity, and peace.

 

The hardest test in life is accepting that:

You were doing the best you could with the awareness, capacity, and emotional tools you had at the time.

 

When you know better, you do better.

 

But you cannot become better if you refuse to release who you were.

Self-forgiveness is the bridge between the old you and the emerging you.

It’s the moment you say:

“I will not carry this version of me any further.”

 

This is the test that determines whether you repeat a season or rise into the next one. Not because you deserve perfection — but because you deserve freedom.

 

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